It’s Not You, It’s Me! – Dealing with Impotence, Sexual Frustration, ED in a Relationship

Worried about ED? Whether you suffer yourself, or if you’re concerned for your partner, this article is for you! We’ll break down the hormonal causes of ED and explain what you can do if you think you need to get your hormones checked out.

But before we begin – remember that, while ED can feel like a life sentence, seeking treatment often leads to a quick reprieve! So never feel alone – always reach out for help, because there are many great treatments out there.

ED And 30 Million Americans

If your partner has suddenly become distant, no longer the tactile, romantic guy that you fell in love with, it’s easy to feel upset and frightened that he’s losing interest in you. He starts to push you away. You begin to suspect an affair or feel that horrible sadness in the pit of your stomach that he is simply no longer attracted to you. When you try to hug him, he pulls away. Getting a little naughty in the bedroom gets you nowhere – he simply rejects you. 

Looking back at happier, carefree times, you remember when he made you feel like the most desirable woman in the world. That was a time when he clearly adored you, and you both had so much fun together.

You wonder sadly, what changed?

One thing that you might not have considered? Erectile dysfunction (ED).

Erectile Issues Don’t Discriminate

Affecting over 50% of males (and around 30 million American men), erectile dysfunction (ED) is common, and treatable. Yet it is also a major cause of depression & relationship break down, because most men simply feel too isolated and ashamed to talk about it or to seek help. Many men – perhaps your partner, too – feel so ashamed by ED that they push their partner away rather than admit that it is affecting them.

Many of us simply never recognize the signs of ED. Not until it’s too late.

Here’s how you can help.

Ours was a deeply physically passionate relationship. He was very adventurous in bed.. as it took more each time for him to be stimulated enough to reach the climax he was chasing. There was always that flicker of hope that perhaps we would strike on something that might work for him. The hope… It plays games and it deludes.

Even young guys – freshmen in college – can experience ED. It can affect any man at any age. But even if you have a close relationship, your man might go out of his way to hide it from you.

In fact, oftentimes, the last person a man wants to discuss his ED with is you. That’s because he likely thinks of you as the hottest woman that he’s ever met. And the risk of rejection from a woman he loves that deeply is just too hard for him to bear. So to avoid that rejection, he decides to reject you first.

How to Help Your Partner

Why we never got help is beyond me. He couldn’t bear to speak it out loud, to be honest. He was afraid to utter those 2 words that every man is utterly petrified of Erectile Dysfunction.

One great strategy when it comes to normalizing ED is to frame it as a positive physical reaction – an ‘early warning system’ that his body uses to rapidly gain his attention & to motivate him to get checked out medically. Why? Because – as any doctor will tell you – ED is an extremely common early symptom of many serious, life-limiting conditions such as heart disease, thyroid abnormalities or diabetes.

In fact, any doctor out there will applaud your man for seeking help for ED as early as he is able to, because we know that it might just save his life. Men with ED are a startlingly 70% more likely to die early – simply because ED is so often tied to serious illnesses. And when those illnesses aren’t treated early enough? The damage can be irreversible.

The takeaway is this. Help your man to reframe ED as a temporary & treatable ‘early warning’ signal, symptomatic of a deeper health issue (& not a simple anxiety-inducing ‘sexual performance’ issue). This can help him to feel far readier to start that all-important ED-related conversation with his doctor.

For him not to be able to perform the way he desired essentially broke him and us. His demons eventually and finally took over and won.

No Man Should Suffer Alone

Another great approach? Remind him that you’ll always be there for him, no matter what. And that because ED treatments have progressed lightning-fast, he can expect numerous therapeutic options, all offering great success rates when he does reach out. It simply makes no sense to suffer when so much help is now out there.

Ultimately, no man should suffer alone – and nor should you. So if your relationship is being crushed by ED, Doctors Studio can help! As national leaders in sexual medicine, our medical practice has been restoring the sex lives of countless happy clients – like Jim and Gayle – for over 15 years. 

We know that treating ED is often a journey a couple walks together. And here at the Doctors Studio, we can support you on that journey, every step of the way.

I wonder sometimes… what would have happened if he’d sought help. His entire future, his LIFE would have had such a different outcome. Crushing really, that so many men are being snuffed out by this deepest darkest secret. It literally suffocates them and their relationships to death.